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Become Before You Attract
Who you become affects what you attract and what you are able to sustain.
About
Relationships should not be left to guesswork.
THIS IS RELATIONSHIP™ is a relationship intelligence, education, and media company built to help people understand, build, strengthen, and sustain healthy relationships through principles, assessments, practical tools, and intentional action.
Founded by Dr. Hesed Ojieh
Powered by The Relationship Blueprint™
Why We Exist
To replace relationship guesswork with relationship intelligence.
Too many people make some of the most important decisions of their lives using only attraction, emotion, assumptions, fear, loneliness, cultural expectations, or incomplete advice.
THIS IS RELATIONSHIP™ exists to give people a better framework.
- A framework for understanding themselves.
- A framework for evaluating relationships.
- A framework for choosing wisely.
- A framework for communicating, healing, growing, and building relationships that can last.
“People do not attract what they want.
They attract who they have become.”
The Relationship Blueprint™ begins with becoming.
Healthy relationships are not simply found. They are built by people who are becoming emotionally healthy, spiritually mature, purposeful, discerning, and capable of sustaining what they desire.
The Foundation
The Relationship Blueprint™ became the foundation.
The Relationship Blueprint™
The Complete System for Attracting, Building, and Sustaining Healthy Relationships
By Dr. Hesed Ojieh
The platform grew from the principles and framework developed in The Relationship Blueprint™.
The book addresses the full relationship journey — identity, healing, purpose, attraction, discernment, communication, trust, forgiveness, marriage, stewardship, growth, and legacy.
THIS IS RELATIONSHIP™ turns that body of work into assessments, personalized insights, education, tools, media, and practical application.
From Principles to Practice
The book became a platform.
The Relationship Blueprint™
→Assessments
→Personalized Insights
→Education
→Practical Tools
→Media
→This Is Relationship Premium™
The goal is not merely to give people more relationship information.
The goal is to help people understand where they are, identify what needs attention, and know what to build next.
How We Think
Relationships are built by design, not by chance.
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Purpose Before Partnership
Purpose changes relationship decisions and helps clarify who belongs in your future.
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Discernment Beyond Attraction
Chemistry can create interest. Character, maturity, values, purpose, and direction determine whether something should be built.
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Communication With Understanding
Healthy communication requires listening, truth, clarity, respect, and the ability to disagree without destroying connection.
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Health Before Appearance
A relationship can look good publicly and still require serious attention privately. Health must be examined intentionally.
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Faithfulness Over Time
The goal is not merely to start with excitement. It is to build something capable of growing, surviving seasons, and finishing well.
Who This Is For
Relationship intelligence for every stage.
Single / Preparing
For people asking:
Am I ready for the relationship I want?
Dating / Courting / Engaged
For people asking:
Is this the person I should marry?
Married / Committed
For people asking:
Is my relationship healthy — or are there patterns that need immediate attention?
Founder & Author
Dr. Hesed Ojieh
Pastor • Author • Leadership Mentor • Relationship Teacher
Dr. Hesed Ojieh is the founder of THIS IS RELATIONSHIP™ and the author of THE RELATIONSHIP BLUEPRINT™.
His work draws from more than three decades of ministry, relationship teaching, leadership development, biblical study, marriage and family experience, and years of listening to and helping people navigate relationship challenges.
Through The Relationship Blueprint™, he developed a framework designed to help people move beyond emotion and guesswork toward intentional, principled relationship decisions.
His work now serves as the intellectual foundation for the assessments, teachings, tools, media, and member experiences inside THIS IS RELATIONSHIP™.
Our Difference
Not another dating app.
Not another collection of relationship tips.
THIS IS RELATIONSHIP™ is being built as a relationship intelligence platform.
We combine:
- Published intellectual property
- Structured assessments
- Personalized insights
- Relationship education
- Practical frameworks
- Ongoing media
- Member tools
- Application and growth systems
The purpose is to help people make better relationship decisions before problems become crises — and help existing relationships become healthier, stronger, and more intentional.
The Ecosystem
One Blueprint. Multiple ways to apply it.
Start Where You Are
What question are you trying to answer?
This Is Relationship™
Relationships Are Built by Design, Not by Chance.
Powered by The Relationship Blueprint™
by Dr. Hesed Ojieh